A new decade: Flirty 30

On April 26, 2017 I hit a milestone birthday…. The big “flirty thirty”! I have had a flush of emotions about hitting 30 from the time I have turned 29 on last year. So many things ran through my head and initially it was honestly dread and somewhat sorrow. Here’s why:

As we all know, we all make up plans in our heads about what we plan to do and how we expect things to be by the time we reach a certain age. For me, I just knew that I would be married with 2 kids, a dog, a house with a white picket fence and a great career by the time I was 25. Well, that time has come and gone and to be honest, I haven’t hit any of those goals yet. I have a significant other whom I love dearly and we live together. However, we haven’t yet embarked on the next phases of our relationship as far as marriage, children or home ownership for several reasons.

Being a Millennial has its own set of unique challenges. We live in a day and age where the pay is low and the cost is high. Nothing is cheap. Everyone has a Bachelors or even a Master’s degree and so the job market is over-saturated and quite competitive especially for people of color. There is gentrification and inflation everywhere you turn especially in the city where I live where the cost of living increase is one of the highest in the U.S. Not to mention the insurmountable student loan debt most of us carry from going to college. All of these things directly affect us and keep many of us including myself and my significant other from taking on anything else that incurs extra expenses such as a child or a house. However, this does not change my desire for these things, and I am determined to get them.

To shake the dread I was feeling of the big “Flirty Thirty” I planned a sexy photoshoot and a weekend getaway to Atlanta and invited my close family and friends. I can honestly say, that it was one of the best birthday celebrations I have EVER had. We clubbed, we brunched, we partied, we ate good, we went sightseeing and most of all I was surrounded by SO much love to the point of most certainly feeling overwhelmed. Just the mere fact that so many people showed me love, and showered me with gifts and words of wisdom and encouragement and spoke life into me as I embark into this next decade of living, literally made me feel that my living so far has not been in vain and that my 30’s will bring the best yet to come in my life.

Turning 30 so far has felt the same as 29. I still feel lost, I still am not in the best career, I still call my mom or grandma for help with simple questions, I still have like NO cooking skills lol …. And you know what? That is ok! 30 isn’t the “magic number” for any of us to have it all together. We as beings are constantly evolving, growing and learning. Life is indeed a journey. Just surround yourself with positive, like-minded people who can and will push you forward towards your goals and achieving your dreams. I have already spoke it into existence and pro-claimed that eyes have not seen and ears have not heard the blessings God has in store for me in these coming years. I can’t wait to see it all, and share it with you. Check out some more images from my Flirty Thirty shoot below!


Blaque Buttaflyy


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